The world feels messy.
(I feel) those in power (generally government and corporations) push all sorts of stuff onto us that we just don’t need, want nor are truly good for us. Really, these days it’s not about what is good for us as people, it’s more what is good for government, profit and targets. It can be so hard to figure out what is truly right and good for us as human beings.
I’ve realised a big part of unschooling is sorting out ALL THE THINGS, in our heads, in our lives and trying to make personal decisions on what we should ditch…ie - declutter our lives from. I feel like life is overwhelming - everyone has an opinion. Stuff is thrown from every single angle. People throw fear at us at every single opportunity.
It’s all clutter. It confuses us and society. Things become unclear and we have just learned to follow, like sheep, unable to see and trust our own instincts.
When I say declutter, I mean, the stuff that occupies us and doesn’t really bring us value or joy and let us say good bye to it. It occupies our minds and doesn’t allow us to find clarity. This could come in many forms - physically, mentally and emotionally.
School can bring alot of clutter - there are people every from all angles telling you what to do, how to do things, what goals to have, standards, tests, forms, peer pressure from kids, peer pressure from parents, homework, term dates, child care, etc, etc. So many things to think about and clutter your thoughts up with.
When you are in this ‘school’ world it just feels normal. Surely all these people at school can’t be wrong. However, once you leave it, you start to see these things as clutter. They have occupied your time and the space in your mind. They have cluttered your mind with all the things apart from what the real needs of your children and family are.
And school is just one example. I turned on the TV the other day, and I felt like I was entering an alternate reality - I saw clutter everywhere. From TV ads, to boring trash TV, to a strange world that looked nothing like mine. Everyone, everywhere trying to distract you and clutter your mind.
I see clutter when I go to supermarkets. All the things that are sugar free but still really bad for you or the environment. I use to rely on them for 90% of our shopping, now it’s more like 10%.
I see clutter in the news and magazines. The images and products they constantly try to push on us.
It goes on and on.
So when we unschool it’s like we have to look at all of these things and decide:
- do we need it?
- is it good for our child or family?
- what is the purpose?
- what if we just went without?
- if we don’t need this, then can we also get rid of that?
- does it bring us joy?
- does it bring us value?
- how will we grow with this ‘thing’?
I feel like alot of our unschooling experience has been decluttering ourselves from the pressures and teachings we’ve had over the years. Slowly we’ve had to (deschool and) let go of so many things.
Perhaps decluttering is like deschooling. But I see decluttering more like permanently saying goodbye to things we don’t like, things that don’t add value and things that don’t bring us joy. By doing this we can then allow room for other things to occupy our lives - the things that we do like. That do bring us joy. That do bring us value.
I’d love to hear your thoughts of decluttering and unshcooling!