We officially started on our unschooling journey almost 3 years ago. We had been mulling on the idea for quite a long while before that, but didn’t feel brave enough until then. It’s been quite a journey. And I can quite confidently say we will never go back to our ‘schooling ways’.
Whilst I always knew that our unschooling journey would have unschooling elements for us (the parents), what I didn’t really anticipate is the extent to which we would be unschooled ourselves.
We (the parents) have had to deschool too and develop our own understanding of how our lives as an active learning family should be. I haven’t blogged as much as I would have liked about it and we’ve all had ‘interesting’ experiences and challenges along the way.
It’s tough. Experimental. Forever changing.
It’s incredibly clear that we are all going through the unschooling process. Which for us is not focused on school in any kind of way (I feel like we’ve recently let go of one of the last remaining things of a schooling approach, more on that later, but it has to do with maths). It’s about living our life detached from societal pressures and expectations. Supporting each other in any way possible. Trying to live in harmony, ha ha! Defining ourselves what we believe is important to get by in life. We are all learning all the time, on our own terms. We are constantly redefining our lives, needs, expectations and goals.
A common theme is that we strive for freedom in every aspect of our lives. Freedom to spend time with the kids. Freedom to work. Freedom to choose where to spend our energy. Freedom to experiment and play. Freedom to decide what works for us. And letting go of all the things that try to define and hold us back.
For us, it doesn’t mean we get to do what we want all the time. It’s more of a case of finding the balance, between all of us. There is important work to do. Time together and play is also important. But these things can be combined where, for example - work feels like play 🙂 (but I am not implying play is the opposite of work).
Balance is key for us. Lack of it is what tends to cause problems. And our life before totally lacked balance, which we know in hindsight was generally bad for us.
So unschooling for us means:
For all the family. Together.
This is really a bit of a brain dump and reflection. This year has been wonderful, but tough. I’d really like to get back into my desire to write and refine more about what unschooling is via our journey.