Stand-ups, planning, and retros are a tool and you should be putting a lot of thought into what tools you use.
It’s so easy to get carried away with doing all the things. Often you forget about what you actually need. At MoT we have very few meetings, once every week or two for different ‘depts’. And then we catch up as and when we feel the need.
Not that I think what or how we do things is the best. But I’d like to think we do what we can, the best we can, whilst adapting to the different needs of the team.